I haven’t been back.
I’ll be honest the last time that I went to the cemetery to visit my father’s burial site was May 2013. Approximately ninety days since he was placed in the ground, and I haven’t returned.
I just had a couple of reasons for not doing so:
- His gravesite is about 1.5 hours away from my hometown.
- I wasn’t living in my home state for 3 out of the 4 years that he’s been deceased.
Oh. Were you looking for more reasons? That’s really all I got.
I had a young lady that once told me that she’s never been back to the gravesite, and the more I travel this journey of grief I realized that it’s her prerogative to feel that way. Everyone is different and I feel we shouldn’t be forced. It will happen organically, or we will find other ways to honor that person.
Is it hard for you to visit the cemetery? I want to hear from you. Let me know in the comments below. Don’t worry there’s no wrong answer. I just want some feedback on this topic since I’m beginning to hear it a lot. Also, if you decided to cremate, what did you decide to do with the ashes?
Enjoy your holiday!